As I ponder over the years of relationships, I got to thinking on why they work or not work.
When one is mindful of another person and there is a mutual understanding and sharing of values, trust should not be an issue. Only when there are inconsistencies, a gut instinct, and the hair standing up on the back of ones neck, that you may want to ask very specific questions.
Good communication is key on the key-ring to having successful relationships. Understanding the way one communicates in very important. A great tool is http://www.5lovelanguages.com/.
3. Do Your Part
Take care of ones job whatever that is in our working agreement, (food, household stuff, kids clothing and stuff, etc.) and my partner holds up his end of the deal (outside house stuff, anything slimy, family moral and fun, etc.).
When you have a partner you really love, than it is important to appreciate them and let them know that you are excited to be with them. A love note or special some thing every once in a while will add depth to the relationship. Doing some thing to show your appreciation other than on a holiday, birthday, or anniversary will add to the overall banking account of love.
5. Have Some Fun
Hang loose...chill out...bungee jump...go to an amusement park and act like teenagers even if the body objects. Have fun being with each other.
6. Say, " I am Sorry."
When you are wrong, be quick to admit it. Even when you unintentionally hurt another person. Saying, "I am sorry," goes along way in the relationship bank account. Never let your pride get in the way of your relationships.
Since no one is perfect...say I forgive you, then forget it, and move on.
Last note, if you have love take care of it, if you do not...may love find you.