Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Continuing in the Process of Permanent Change

I hope by now you have taken the time to reflect on your life.  Ask yourself some questions. Answer those questions the best that you can.  Problem solve if necessary.  Write out some plans. In addition, mark the change with a ritual of some kind.

As you par laid through the process, I hope you learned to breathe slowly and relax.  Meditation is a good habit to incorporate into one's life.  If we all learned to slow down a bit the world as a whole might be better off.

I am working through the process and most likely will continue to do so for the first part of the New Year.  I have changed my routine a bit and will continue to refine it as time goes by.

I personally would like to thank that entire visit from time to time and comment or drop me an e-mail at

I wish all a Happy New Year!

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Breathe Deeply and Allow Change: PROCESS

I hope you have come up with some things to ponder.

Did you write down your questions?  You may or may not have answers to all of them and that is okay.

Did you come up with a way to signify or demarcate an event, occasion, or circumstance?

Now, breathe deeply and allow the past to be the past.  (You can not change it.) 

Keep breathing; slowly, in and out.  Relax.  Breathe; slowly, in and out.  Relax, and allow those things to slip away.  Breathe.

Take a moment to acknowledge the day.  What are you going to do today?  What new routines can you establish that will assist you to live today in the present?  Create change.  Make a note of a new way to start your day.  Is there a better way to work?  Take your lunch or eat out?

If you start to think of the past, STOP!  



Breathe.  Relax.  

Breathe.  Refresh.  


Now begin to move.  

Rise up. Stretch. 

If you come up with goals for the future jot them down.  Don't get detailed yet.  Just make a note.

Today live in the present.  Breathe deeply.  Allow change.

Monday, December 28, 2009


As long as man has been around he has always marked occasions in some manner.  I believe acknowledgement of an event, occasion, or change is important.  Whether public or private there are ways to signify or delimitate a period in time.

I have in the past used a glass jar to put things or people (figuratively of course) in and give them over to God.  Once in the jar they are in His hands.

I have on other occasions received a note, certificate, and even a trophy for performance of tasks, job requirements or duties.

In what way can you write off the negative and accentuate the positive?

Give acknowledgement to goals accomplished or special occasions of one's life time.

Email me at and let me know what interesting things you have come up with to demark a special occasion or goal accomplished. 

Saturday, December 26, 2009


It is that time of year when people tend to reflect on the previous year and contemplate future goals.  I have known some people who have a habit of reflecting periodically throughout the year and not just at the close of a year.  Whichever type of person you are I hope that the following ideas, questions, and prompts will inspire and encourage you to reflect more often.  I sometimes wonder what the world would be like if people in positions of authority pondered or reflected more often before they acted.

Reflection can have different meanings to different people.  I will be using an educational definition.  Please consider the following:

Reflection is thinking for an extended period by linking recent experiences to earlier ones in order to promote a more complex and interrelated mental schema. Reflection normally involves looking for:
* Differences
* Interrelations beyond their superficial elements

The goal is to develop higher order thinking skills. 

Educators normally consider Dewey (1933) as the modern day originator of the concept of reflection, although he drew on the ideas of earlier educators, such as Aristotle, Plato, and Confucius. He thought of reflection as a form of problem solving that chained several ideas together by linking each idea with its predecessor in order to resolve an issue.

Things to consider:
1.  How am I doing?
2.  How are my loved ones?
3.  How are my relationships with others?
4.  What has the year been like?
5.  What are the good things I am grateful for?
6.  What has been painful to deal with?
7.  Any issues outstanding?
8. If there were something I want or need to change within myself, “What would it be?

Make your own list adding or subtracting your own questions.

HINT:  Use your Microsoft notepad and save your personal notes to your desktop.   This way you can create your own private thought journal as you parley through the process of reflecting.

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Merry Christmas 2009

A Seasonal Prayer
May there be laughter to offset the sad times.  May there be peace to ease the chaos.  May the joyous spirit of Christ fill you to overflowing so that you may know His love.  May your Christmas be merry and your New Year happy.


Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Two Words: Ignorance and Want

Charles John Huffam Dickens was the most popular novelist of the Victorian Era. His novels and shorts stories contain some of the most iconic characters ever invented and are still in print, and have never been out of print to date. His stories are listed among the classics being read by both young and old.

One of his more famous stories: A Christmas Carol is a Christmas time favorite.  My favorite version of this novel is the movie with George C. Scott. I watch it every year.  For me, it is like reading 'The Book of Psalms.' You learn something new every time you read it, watch it, or listen to it. It is timeless.

Several lines throughout the novel and movie are memorable. "God Bless us everyone!" the favorite of most. My favorite is when the ghost of Christmas present rolls back the bottom quarter of his robe to reveal the "world's children" named 'ignorance' and 'want.' The word 'doom' is written on their brows. What a lesson and a revelation for Mr. Scrooge! What a lesson for us all if we would but listen.
We did not listen to Dickens then and we are not listening now.   It is the "world's children'ignorance' [(noun) the state or fact of being ignorant; lack of knowledge, learning, information, the condition of being uneducated, unaware, or uninformed to make reasoned decisions] and 'want' [(verb) something desired, demanded, or required: a person of childish, capricious wants expediency without acknowledgement of cost] who are destroying us because we refuse to acknowledge this about ourselves. Our pride in not in wanting to do without or our ignorance in acknowledging the truth, it having the one and not seeking the other.

Two words, 'ignorance' and 'want.' They spell our doom. I believe that if we continue to act out of 'ignorance' and 'want' we will self-destruct.

I hear you saying it is Christmas, "Why be so negative?" I am not a negative person at least I was not.  A personal catastrophe has ruined me. I am not the happy, fun-loving, caring, and giving person I use to be. Rough seas and no relief in sight can dim a person's vision and make it myopic. I have been desperately trying to be me again, just maybe not so naive this time around. Maybe not so trusting or accommodating for others. No benefit of the doubt!  There are evil people in the world and they do not give a damn about anyone else but their own desires, many times at the cost of others. I let others ruin my life.  I should have screamed louder so everyone knew what was happening.  A lesson learned too late for me.

What lesson or lessons will we all have to face because we refuse to learn?  What can we live without and what must we face truthfully?

We cannot afford to be so wanton and lacking a backbone.  We must acknowledge the correct actions necessary and stick to it.  Be brave and have the fortitude, the courage to lead and live a good life in reverent fear of God to whom we give account of our lives.

May the spirit of Christ radiate through you this Christmas and may you live a merry and joyous life!

Saturday, December 19, 2009

O' When the Weather Outside is Frightful...

...find a cozy spot and have a cup of tea.

Friday, December 18, 2009

Christmas Wishes 2009

peace on earth
a cure for ..............
jobs that pay a living wage
companies and people caring for the earth
more good hearted laughter
the spirit of Christmas in the general public to last more then a day
a laptop
a mini beagle
a good book
a place to breathe
new weighted ink pen
decorative pillows
tea with friends
a fishing trip to Venice, Louisiana
a place with a wood fireplace

Thursday, December 17, 2009


Enduring spirit


Friday, December 11, 2009

In Loving Memorial of Mr. Robert Mendler

Robert Mendler died Thursday evening, December 10th, 2009.  He was a survivor of the Holocaust who lived in Latrobe, Pennsylvania.  He is lovingly remembered and will be sorely missed.  Please click the following link to know more of this wonderful mans life.

Carolyn Holland: ROBERT MENDLER: IN MEMORY December 11, 2009


To read more of Robert Mendler's story please link to 

In remembrance and honor of Robert Mendler's passing there will be no new posting for seven days.